As Valentine’s Day approaches, it can be a lonely time if you’re single, divorced, widowed, or often disappointed from unmet expectations.
So, I want to encourage you this week and next. Instead of wishing you had a husband who knew exactly what you were thinking and was able to anticipate your needs at any time, and instead of longing for someone whom you can depend on to always be there for you no matter what…here is a new strategy.
What if you were to focus on your “spiritual husband” this Valentine’s Day? Whether you’re married or not, if you know God, through a relationship with Jesus, you already have the perfect husband. Isaiah 54:5 says “For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name…” Throughout the Bible, God uses the illustration of a bridegroom seeking his bride to describe His desired relationship with His chosen ones. That kind of pursuing love makes Him more than a Supreme Being whom we thank before meals and pray and sing to on Sundays. That makes Him a God who is intimately acquainted with us, perhaps even more than a husband on earth could ever be.
Jesus wants to more than make up for what you never had in a husband, or be the perfect husband you may have been unfairly expecting your spouse to be. Whether you’re single, married, divorced or widowed, here are just four ways Jesus is your Perfect Husband:
- He will never disappoint you.
You and I can’t say this about anyone else on earth. Every human being is fallible. Everyone will disappoint us at one time or another. Except Jesus. Your longing for the perfect husband can be satisfied in a relationship with the Perfect One. Psalm 18:30 says “This God—his way is perfect; the word of the Lord proves true…” (ESV). That means Jesus will never disappoint you, or fail you in any way. You may not understand His ways, as they are much higher than yours (Isaiah 55:8-11), but He cannot act apart from His nature that is good, holy, righteous, and pure. Jesus truly is the Only One who satisfies. So, bring your expectations to the only Perfect One who is able to do “immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us” (Ephesians 3:20, NIV).
2. He knows you better than you know yourself.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be completely known? To know that someone really knows you, what makes you tick, what thrills your heart, and what disappoints you? You might think – or maybe you’ve even heard someone say – “My husband knows everything about me.” Yet, no one can really know you completely, except your Maker. In Psalm 139:1-4, David sang, “O Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I rise up; You understand my thought from afar. Youscrutinize my path and my lying down, and are intimately acquainted with all my ways. Even before there is a word on my tongue, behold, O Lord, You know it all” (NASB, emphasis added).
Think about that. God knows your thoughts before you think them, your words before you say them, and your actions before you carry them out. And He still chooses to love you. That is a mind-reader husband with whom you can feel safe.
3. He’s the perfect listener.
Do you ever want to pour out your heart to someone but you’re not sure how it will come across or how the other person will react? Will your words be received in the right way? Will you be misunderstood or, worse yet, labeled an emotional train wreck if the words don’t come out right? Psalm 62:8 tells us: “Trust in Him at all times…; Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us” (NASB). That verse assures us that with Jesus there is safe communication. You don’t have to walk on eggshells or close yourself off because you don’t know how to verbalize what’s on your heart and say it just right. With Jesus as your “safe place” you can say whatever is on your heart and mindand know you are accepted by your Beloved.
4. He is always available.
Even a husband with the best intentions cannot always be there for his wife. Life happens. The job and responsibilities call. There are aging parents to care for or fires to put out on his job. But in Jesus you have a husband who has always been there for you and always will. Psalm 139:7-12 assures us there is no place we can go where He is not and no place we can wander where He will not follow. He goes before us, walks alongside us, and has our backs. That is a love that is ever available and always there for you.
Next week I’ll give you three more ways Jesus is the perfect husband. But for now, I’d love for you to let me know in the comment section below which one you’ll be focusing on this Valentine’s Day. (In the meantime, fall in love with your Perfect Husband all over again with my devotional book, When God Pursues a Woman’s Heart, on sale now through the month of February.)
Jesus is the ONLY PERSON I can trust with my heart and soul. AMEN
Thanks, Sylvia. Happy Valentine’s Day as you celebrate your First Love.
This was very comforting and encouraging
You’re welcome, Barbie. 🙂
Thank you for your article,reminding me who my real husband is.My human husband was abusive, I could never please him no matter what I did and the rules were always changing,I wasn’t told.I walked on eggshells my whole life. I praise God for now He has given me my freedom.My husband was diagnosed with dementia and while in the hospital he tried to kill a nurse,that got me the help I needed after asking for help many times.At His the Lords, time ,I have been set free and I have my husbands s.s.I have beenmarried 57 years.I have an income I would not have had before. God’s timing was perfect.
Thank you, Mary, for sharing with me and my readers about your Faithful, Ever-Present, Always-Providing Spiritual Husband.
Ooo my!!.. What a word. Thank you woman of God. Indeed our LORD, our Savoir, our friend, our husband and our all in all. In Him we live, we move and have our being. He is the Supreme, no other gods can be compare unto our GOD. Thanks again and keep up with the good work in the kingdom, He will reward you if you faint not.
Thank you, Chaplain Henrietta for your encouraging comments. Blessings.
Thank you Cindi for this timely reminder. I was wondering how I was going to handle this season and God used you to answer. My focus will be to make God my husband….
Blessings, Anita, as you look to the One who will always love you, never disappoint you, and never ever leave. 🙂
I am trying to concentrate on Jesus being my perfect husband. I know he is always there, will always listen to me and he is always available. In my heart, I need to accept that he is everything I will ever need. I can tell him whatever is on my mind and ask for his guidance.
Blessings, Jan, as you continue to look to Jesus as your Perfect Husband and First Love.
I honestly believe you always know what I need to hear. Being single is hard especially when you are trying to take care of everyone and you feel so worn out. I look around and see everyone with someone…then I have people tell me I should be happy that I am single, because I don’t have to worry with anyone….then my parents remind me daily that I am alone. I know God is working on me right now and if it is in His plan for me to have someone He will definitely show me.
Good to hear your continued trust in Jesus, Lara. He will continue to care of you, love you, and comfort you during alone times.
Thank you woman of God , for opening my spiritual eyes. God is always faithful . He is a real Husband. I have been married for 10 years now but there is no joy in my marriage instead there’s pain. But today I know who to trust, Prince of Peace , My father, My shoulder to cry on. I am also interested on getting a copy of your book, please advise if it available in south Africa.
Have a Blessed day.
Hi Velile, Many of my books are available in South Africa. Contact your local bookstore or anyplace you purchase books and tell them you’d like to order a copy of “When God Pursues a Woman’s Heart” or any other title of mine and spell my name for them (Cindi McMenamin) and you should be able to order within your country and not pay excessive postage costs. Thanks for asking.
Especially loved the reminder that he is the perfect listener. He is available 24/7, ready and eager to listen to us, not judgemental about what we say and feel. He is the perfect husband and friend.
Yes, God’s line is never busy, you never get “call waiting,” the Psalms say He always “answers” and you’ll never have to worry about getting His “voicemail.” 🙂 Thanks, Peggy.
What a beautiful way to look at an intimate relationship. Thank you for sharing this your heart with me this morning. It’s not a coincidence that I needed to read what you have written. To answer your question, all three ways resonated deeply.
Thank you, Janelle, for your response. I’m so glad this came at the right time and resonated with your heart. 🙂
On the 14th I am scheduled for an outpatient procedure… definitely disappointed that my husband will not be taking me, but I realize now that my Perfect Husband will not only be in the waiting room, but in the operating room with me as well! Always available, Jesus, Lover of my soul!
Yes, Gigi! Thank you so much for your encouraging email and a reminder to all of us that when our earthly husbands can’t be there for us, our Heavenly Husband is always there (Hebrews 13:5).
I will focus on God always being available. My husband passed away on March 6 last year. I’m SOOO thankful that my spiritual husband will always be there!
Thanks, Barbara, for sharing with us what is going on in your life and your confidence that your spiritual Husband (the Lord Jesus) will always be with you.
I was sad, when my earthly husband love to spend time with his family and friends but spend limited time at home but when I read ur uncommon book, Jesus is my husband that will always love and support, spend time with me, I am Renew . Thanks ma 😘 more grace IJN
Hi Doris, it sounds like you read my book, “Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs.” I’m glad it ministered to you and reminded you that you have a heavenly husband you can draw close to. Blessings as you remain in that relationship with Jesus, your First Love.
I just love this after reading this it warmed my heart for Jesus again. I just want to get back to my intimate place with Him after being away from Him for a while. Thanks so much!
I’m glad this spoke to your heart, Victoria. Thanks for your encouraging comment. Enjoy your time with Jesus.