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Do you ever worry about finding someone? Keeping someone? Marrying someone?

As Valentine’s Day approaches, you or someone you know might be wondering if God has forgotten about you when it comes to a love relationship in your life. But God is even more concerned about your relationship status than you are.

God gave us relationships to mirror the kind of relationship He wants to have with each of us (Ephesians 5:30-32). So He wants our relationships to be healthy and God-honoring. He gives us friendships, so we can understand unconditional love. He designed the marriage relationship, so we can understand the concept of dying to self and giving of oneself completely to another. He has given us parent-child relationships, so we can understand the fierce, protective love that won’t falter regardless of what our children do.

But I truly believe God wants us to cultivate an intimate relationship with Him above any other so we can know where to begin in cultivating relationships with others. If we don’t know how to love and be loved by God, we’ll suffer in our other relationships.

God tells us to seek His kingdom first and all these other things we are concerned about will fall into place (Matthew 6:33). So, if you are seeking Him and still wondering why He has left you single, let me encourage you with these 5 reasons you don’t need to worry about love:
1. God may be protecting you from something you can’t yet (and might not ever) see.
2. God may be waiting for the right time to bring someone far better into your life than you had thought to ask for.
3. God realizes you may be far happier and content now than if you DID have someone in your life. (Yes, it’s true. Some people are actually more miserable after marrying than before.)
4. God knows He is the Only One who can fulfill you completely. So He may be keeping you where you are until you know what it means to be complete in His love.
5. God promises that He works ALL things (relationships included) for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

Can you trust that God knows best when it comes to sharing your heart? Then, as Philippians 4:6 instructs:

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.”

As you do this, you can go boldly into Valentine’s Day, knowing your relationship status is “fully loved” when it comes to God.

For more on living a worry-free life, see my new book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom, now available in my online store.

What if I told you that breaking the worry habit is easier than you think?

Last week I gave you the ABCs to start your journey of being worry-free:

  • Admit you and I are not in control.
  • Believe God only wants the best for you
  • Commit yourself to a deeper knowledge of God.
    This week I have the next few letters of the alphabet to help you apply Philippians 4:6 to your life and not worry about anything, but instead pray about everything.
  • Depend on God to do what you can’t. Worry says “I must handle this myself.” But trust says “God, only You can truly work this through.”Leave it in His hands and watch the worry and stress fade away.
  • Expect Him to come through for you. Philippians 4:6 instructs us to not worry about anything, but instead pray about everything, thanking God for all He has done. That tells me we should be thanking God ahead of time for all we are trusting Him to do on our behalf. That is faith…the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1).
  • Focus on the truth, not the “what-ifs.” The truth is “with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26, NASB). The truth is He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). The what-ifs are the scenarios our mind conjures up when we forget the truth of Who God is and what He is capable of.

This week I am depending on God to do through me what is beyond me. I am expecting Him to come through in the amazing way that Only He can. And I am focusing on the truth of WHO He is and WHAT He can do, rather than the what if scenario as if there were no God in control.

What are you depending on God to do, in particular, this week, this month, or this year? Let me know in the comment section below so I can join you in praying and trusting, rather than worrying.

I’m tired of sweating the small stuff. And stressing about the large stuff. And worrying about whatever is in between.
So, now that it’s a brand new year, my goal is simple and certain: To worry about nothing – and pray about everything.
It’s practical advice that comes from the Bible, yet it’s so difficult to apply at times.
Philippians 4:6-7 tells us:

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

And the next verse tells us the result of not worrying, but choosing to pray about our concerns instead:

Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

Worry prematurely ages us. And stress, literally, kills. But more than wanting to protect my health, I want God to be pleased with my life and to worry is the opposite of faith. To worry or stress about something is to say to God –and others – that I don’t believe He is capable of taking care of all that concerns me.
In light of my upcoming book, Ten Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom (releasing March 1 from Harvest House Publishers), I want to be a woman who doesn’t worry about ANYTHING in my life, regardless of what comes my way.
As I point out in my new book, we don’t worry because of our circumstances. We worry because of who we are. And worrying – whether it’s about our children, our husbands, our aging parents, or our friends – doesn’t show how much we love another person, but how little we know God.
So, this is what I’m practicing every day this year – The ABCs to not worrying about the things that would ordinarily weigh us down. And I’m asking you to join me in this quest.

  • A – Admit you (and I) are not in control. It’s that easy. God can handle it. We cannot.
  • B – Believe God only wants the best for you. To release our lives and loved ones into God’s hands we must trust God and His character. We must believe He is good, He is loving, and He is so much wiser than we are. That means if He allows something we don’t understand, we trust Him, rather than worry that He got it wrong.
  • C – Commit yourself to a deeper knowledge of God. I’m a firm believer that if we want to improve any relationship in our lives, we must first grow in our relationship with God. As we get to know Him more intimately, we can trust Him with all that concerns us. And then, instead of being worriers (who focus on the negative and what could go wrong), we can be encouragers. How well you and I trust God is directly connected to how well you and I know Him. So, simply said, I want to know Him more.

So, will you share with me this goal to get to know this great, loving, capable God even better this year? If so, let me know in the comment section below. I’ll be right alongside you…encouraging you each step of the way.