When it comes to the women we model our lives after, who are your heroines?
Actresses? Models? Outspoken women fighting for a woman’s position in this male-dominated world?
The Bible contains many examples of women we can look up to – women of faith, obedience, and a heart for God. But, there are also many stories throughout the Old and New Testaments that show us what not to do, how not to live and who not to be like.
Here are five women of the Bible who – for a season or for their entire lives – are examples of who not to imitate:
- Eve – the woman who wasn’t satisfied.
Eve was a woman who literally had it all. Not only was she married to the perfect man prior to The Fall, but she had a beautiful garden home (that never needed weeding), no noisy (or nosey) neighbors, no job pressures on her or her husband, no debts, no bills to pay, no in-laws, and no disobedient or demanding children. She didn’t even have laundry! (Think about that one. They were naked before they sinned, remember?)
Not only was Eve’s life perfect, but she was perfect and complete in every way. No health problems, weight problems, vision or hearing problems, and no addictions, or achy body parts. But for some reason, all that perfection wasn’t enough for her. Eve entertained Satan’s suggestion that there was something morethat she needed, but didn’t yet have (Genesis 2:18-3:23). Don’t be a woman who believes you must have more. Trust the limitations God has put in your life for your wellbeing. Otherwise you may find, like Eve, that in wanting just a little more, you end up losing it all.
2. Lot’s wife – the woman who looked back.
God commanded Lot and his whole family to leave the detestable city of Sodom, and not look back or they would be destroyed along with the city and everyone in it. But Lot’s wife had regrets. Instead of looking forward to the new life God was giving her and her family, she longed for the place God was delivering her from. Her heart was still in Sin City. She looked back and was turned to a pillar of salt (Genesis 19:1-26).
Don’t be a woman who looks back at what you used to have, or who longs to return to the place God once delivered you from. Instead, forget the past and move forward into the future God has for you.
3. Job’s wife – the woman who offered horrible advice.
Granted, her husband was going through a difficult and painful time. And she no doubt felt the impact of him losing his flocks, livelihood, investments, servants and children! Yet instead of being a support and comfort to her husband, or turning to God in her pain and confusion, she let bitterness take over and blurted out to Job the worst advice ever uttered in history: “Curse God and die!” (Job 2:9). Interesting…that was exactly what Satan wanted Job to do as a result of the distress Satan was bringing upon him (Job 1:11).
Ladies, we can be the gentle, affirming voice of the Holy Spirit to our husbands or we can be the angry, accusing voice of Satan. I know which one I want to be, don’t you?
4. Moses’ wife – the woman who did things her way.
When God confronted Moses for his disobedience (or perhaps his wife’s) in failing to circumcise his son, (as a sign of obedience to God’s Covenant), Moses’ life was in danger. Zipporah “took a sharp stone and cut off the foreskin of her son and cast it at Moses’ feet, and said, ‘Surely, you are a husband of blood to me!’” (Exodus 4:24-26). Although Zipporah’s actions saved her husband’s life, she did it with evident disgust.
Some Bible scholars believe that Zipporah, because she was a Midianite, might have been the one who didn’t allow the circumcision of their sons because she didn’t believe in it. Or perhaps, out of protective mother mode, she refused to allow her husband to perform the procedure. There is always drama when we decide on our way over God’s. Don’t be a drama queen who insists on her own way.
5. Rachel – the woman who wanted it all.
Rachel, the preferred wife of Jacob, had love, wealth, and a promising future in front of her. But Rachel didn’t have any children. And she must have thought that having children would be her ticket to having it all!
Rachel’s jealousy of her sister’s ability to have several children sent Rachel into a tailspin with drama that negatively affected her relationship with her husband, her sister, and God. Ironically, Rachel – who told her husband “Give me children or I die” – ended up dying just after the birth of her second son. The one thing she believed would bring her fulfillment (having children) ultimately cost her life (Gen.29:14-30:24 and 35:16-20). Don’t be a woman so desperate for what you believe will make you fulfilled that you miss the blessings that are right in front of you.
That list is certainly not extensive. In fact, I’ve saved the worst for last. Watch for “Five More Women Not to be Like” in next week’s blog. For now, which of these women gives you an up close and personal look at your dark side? I’d love for you to share it with me in the comment section below. Then I’ll tell you which one is most like me. 🙁
I pray I will be a woman who shows God’s love to everyone. I pray I will put Him first. I know there are times when I fail and I am thankful He forgives me and gives me another chance. 🙂
Thank you for sharing, Melissa. I can relate. And I don’t want to be the drama queen who chooses her way over God’s. That’s so unattractive. Besides, if I wrote the book “Drama Free” I have to live it out! 🙂
I am most like Rachel if anyone. I am 41 with no children and would love The Lord to bless my husband and I with a child. I only want His will though. He knows best. I will look at the blessings of my nieces and nephews He has already given me and know He is not done with me yet. They need me.
Ak, I love your perspective.In my book, Women on the Edge, I point out that Rachel could’ve lived a long life as a wonderful Aunt Rachel to her many nephews and niece, and yet she insisted on becoming a mom and died early. 🙁 Thank you for your wonderful example of embracing your blessings God has given you. I think we can all learn from that.
I can be all 5 women. I pray most not to be like is Job’s wife. My husband and I have raised 4 children and work together and I find when I give sound advice without the drama my husband listens.
Very good tactic, Carol. 🙂 Thanks for your comment.
I read your article on ‘5 Women….’, Rachel & you saying that she had no children…..
But she Did have (2) sons….
*******Joseph & Benjamin *****
Hi Lynda, Yes, she did have two sons and I mentioned in the blog that she died after the birth of her second son. Thanks for reading.
Iam so touched by the women story I have never thought about them with such in-depth I know I have been all of them at a given time, which I highly regret. I now pray for the Lord to forgive me and be the woman God wants me to be.
Thank you for your heartfelt response, Margaret. I, too, have been some of these women at times but God is gracious and gives us a new start every day as we surrender to Him.
I enjoy your style of writing. The Lord has blessed you with this wonderful talent. I feel that I learn more and more about our loving God, every time I read one of your pieces. I am also busy reading your book “When Woman Walk Alone”.
Sending you encouragement to keep doing what you doing, it really is making a difference in people’s lives.
Thank you very much, Lee, for those kind, encouraging words.It’s good to know they are making a difference and causing others to think and reflect. And it’s wonderful for me, personally, to know you are reading ‘When Women Walk Alone.’ Blessings to you.
Such a thought-provoking post. Thank you Cindi! Honestly, I’ve been all five. It’s easy to take on any one of these five sinful perspectives when we think our needs are not being met. What helps me avoid the temptation to turn my “wants” into needs is to examine my trust in my Heavenly Father. God knows what I need AND what I want. He is a faithful provider. And I can trust the perfect Securer of my soul to withhold a “want” to reveal my true need. Thank You Lord.
That was beautifully said, Dana. Thank you so much. 🙂
One of your best blogs, Cindi!
Very insightful, and it inspires in-depth thinking. Thank you!
Thank you for reading and commenting. 🙂
I Pray I can be a soft woman but with a strong willpower,especially in the things of the Godly Kingdom.
Thank you, Sheilla. Oh, to be soft in our hearts and our mannerisms, yet strong in our boldness for Him!
I’m Diana from Singapore. I just finished reading your book “When God sees your tears”. I felt so encouraged and comforted. I really enjoyed your style of writing and finished the whole book within 3 days. Thank you for writing such a wonderful book and I’m truly blessed to read it. Wish you good health and God Bless you and your family❤️
Hi Diana. Thank you for taking the time to find me on the web and comment on my blog. It’s wonderfully encouraging to me to know that you have read my book, “When God Sees Your Tears,” way out there in Singapore. Many blessings to you and keep in touch.
From the passage Eve lost her beautiful journey with God.Today I learnt be satisfied with what God has given us.God has a beautiful plan for us.
Hi Cindi, a wonderfully wise, reflective post! It gives me a bit of nausea to think back and admit I’ve been a touch of all 5:-( But grateful to my Heavenly Father for leading me to be a much better person!
You and me both, Sister. Thanks be to God who sets us free from this drama-filled body! 😉