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What I’ve Learned in My Daughter’s 21 Years of Life
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What I’ve Learned in My Daughter’s 21 Years of Life

September 3, 2013
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Posted by Cindi

My daughter, Dana, turned 21 on Sunday. Could it really have been that long since I heard her piercing scream and was told “You have a baby girl!”

In honor of her birthday and all she has taught me (most of which is in my newest book, When a Mom Inspires Her Daughter, which arrives in bookstores this week!), I found myself reflecting on 21 things I’ve learned in the time God has allowed me to be her mom:

1. Children really DO grow fast.

2. There are times when our children would rather have us spend time WITH them, than do a bunch of things FOR them. In other words, take time to play with them while they still want you around

3. No manilla file folder is large enough for the pictures a little girl loves to color for her mother.

4. Dress them in pink throughout their childhood, and they’ll never wear it again once they grow up! (I learned this sad truth the hard way.)

5. It’s not so difficult to have “that talk” when you start early.

6. Nothing takes the place of a mom’s shoulder when her daughter’s heart is broken.

7. A mom starts out as the single most influential person in her daughter’s life. Whether or not we retain that influence (or can reclaim it) is entirely up to us.

8. God cares even more about my daughter’s heart and spiritual condition than I do. So He’s working on it, even when I think I’m the only one that is.

9. There are times when it is wiser to talk to God about my daughter, than to talk to my daughter about God.

10. She will see the kind of wife and mother she wants (or doesn’t want) to be by what she sees  in ME.

11. She is unique and I can’t expect her to act like me, dress like me, or have similar tastes and preferences.

12. Likewise, I can’t copy what she does, wears, or prefers  or it will drive her crazy!

13. They get to an age where — no matter what you say or do…or DON’T say or do — they will be embarrassed. (We were just like when we were their age, too.)

14. The teenage years really CAN be easier than the pre-teen years.

15. When your daughter starts becoming a young lady, never say anything to her that you wouldn’t say to a girlfriend (think tone, critical comments, or anything that might embarrass her personally or publicly).

16. It’s natural for us to want to direct them toward OUR dreams for them. But it takes patience, prayer and perseverance to guide them toward THEIR dreams.

17. There are times (many more times, I would say) that our daughter need encouragement and understanding MORE than advice.

18. A mom and a daughter really CAN be best friends once she becomes an adult.

19. Because actions speak louder than words, I must be the woman I want my daughter to become.

20. How well I respect my own mom will in many ways determine how well my daughter respects me.

21. As a follower of Christ, I am called to disciple others. But my daughter must be my first priority when it comes to discipleship.

I would love to hear what your children (sons or daughters) have taught YOU in the years you have been given the privilege to parent them.

September 3, 2013
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Cindi
Cindi McMenamin is an award-winning author and national speaker who helps women find strength for the soul. She has nearly 35 years experience ministering to women and inspiring them to let God meet their emotional needs, grow stronger through their alone times, and pursue their dreams with boldness.
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  1. yvonne chavez
    September 3, 2013 @ 2:47 pm
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    Hi Cindi… your daughter is beautiful! Thanks so much.

  2. Nicole Blean
    September 3, 2013 @ 8:13 pm
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    What a lovely post, Cindi! I just picked up your new book this morning, and I love what you are writing about mothers and daughters. Makes me proud to be a mom and have hope that I can still influence my teenage daughter. By the way, my single mom friend is also inspired by your new book.

    • StrengthSoul
      September 3, 2013 @ 8:29 pm
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      Thanks, Nicole…and of course you can still influence your teenage daughter. I remember feeling EXACTLY like you at one time. But your faith is strong, your love for her is fierce and your determination is admirable. I believe in you. : )

  3. Michelle
    September 4, 2013 @ 9:47 am
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    In my almost 21 years of being my daughters mother, I have learned I cannot live for her. Her choices might not be what I agree with but I trust God with her. It hasn’t been easy, but with the help of God I am learning to let her live her own life while I continue to pray for her.

    • StrengthSoul
      September 4, 2013 @ 9:57 am
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      Thank you, Michelle, for those wise words. I, too, can relate to wanting to ‘jump in’ and make decisions for my daughter, but like you said, I have to trust God with her…and trust my daughter to listen to Him, as well.

  4. Deb Weaver
    September 5, 2013 @ 9:11 am
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    My heart echoes many of these. #8, 9, & 17 have been especially true in my life.

    Thank you for this post. I found it through Maralee McKee’s Facebook post.

    Deb Weaver
    thewordweaver.com

    • StrengthSoul
      September 5, 2013 @ 9:15 am
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      Thank you, Deb. I appreciate your comments. : )

  5. Carla
    September 5, 2013 @ 9:37 am
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    My daughters are 29 and 31 and my best friends.

    • StrengthSoul
      September 5, 2013 @ 9:51 am
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      That’s great to hear, Carla. Despite what some say, I believe our daughters really can be our close friends when they become adults. : )

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