There are two kinds of women in this world: Those who have been hurt and continue to feel hurt, and those who have been hurt and have surrendered it to God and now help others overcome their hurts, too. I know which woman I want to be — the one who is a blessing and encouragement to others, regardless of what I’ve been through.
One of the greatest ways to overcome pain in your past is to help someone else out of the same kind of pain you once experienced.
In my newest book, When a Woman Overcomes Life’s Hurts, I talk about the joy and healing that comes by reinvesting in the lives of others.
Second Corinthians 1:4 says God “comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” That verse tells me that sometimes God allows pain in our lives so that we can help others through similar pain, and glorify God in the process.
Did you come from an abusive home? There are many others who may have experienced the same. What can you do to be an “angel of encouragement” in their lives?
Have you lived through the pain of betrayal and rejection in your marriage? There are many women experiencing the same thing right now. How can you be a shoulder to cry on and a source of strength in their lives?
Did you suffer the guilt and shame of a past abortion? There are many women who need to hear how you found God’s hope, healing and forgiveness.
Did you live through the fear and trepidation of a teenage pregnancy? There are girls in your neighborhood or in your church who are walking that lonely road right now. Can you offer them acceptance, support and encouragement by letting them know they are not alone?
Be a blessing in the lives of others by:
- Looking backward — at where God has brought you. What pain in your life can you help someone else through?
- Looking Inward — at what God has done in you. How has He prepared you, through your pain, to be an encouragement in someone else’s life?
- Looking outward – at those who need help. Where are the women who are now experiencing what you once did?
- Looking upward — at God’s strength and equipping. Depend on Him to enable you to strengthen someone else.
- Looking forward – to the doors that God will open for you. Pray now for opportunities to be a blessing in someone else’s life.
By helping someone else find hope, you are speeding up your own road to healing and wholeness. And you are living out the purpose in your pain.
Instead of being a wounded woman, be a warrior woman….by going back into the places where you once felt pain and helping others find their way out. Fight for them, like God has fought for you.
Have you had an opportunity to help others through the same kind of pain or hurt you have experienced? I’d love to hear about it.
What a fantastic post, Cindi! Thanks for the 5 easy ways to be a blessing. A great reminder that God never wastes a hurt.
Thanks for reading, Nicole. And thank you for living out the testimony of letting God redeem your pain. Yours is one of my favorite stories to tell. : )
Great post! I love that God redeems our pain.
Thanks, Abby. 🙂
I have Systemic Lupus which does not afford me much relief from pain. I have prayed and asked Jesus for help and have attempted to help others. I still have a fear of loneliness and betrayal. I pray that God will show me the way. I pray for strength, healing, and His will in my life. My prayer is that I will feel the calm and joy of Jesus’s presence.
I am praying for you, too, Rose, to feel the presence of Jesus and His healing touch on your life. Remember, sometimes we don’t actually FEEL Him, but He is nonetheless there. He has promised to never leave you. Blessings as you continue to praise Him in the pain.
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Thank you so much, Cindi! I have struggled with this my whole life—wanting to find the purpose in the pain. I just bought the book on my Kindle and am looking forward to reading it. Also, thank you for speaking at the Ladies Conferences at Word of Life–I’m on staff and try to go to every one of them when I can. I was so very blessed by your sessions! Appreciate you. Please come back to speak again soon! May God bless you and your family!
Thank you, Jenn, for your kind words. Praying God will minister to you deeply through my book.
What a God send your post was Cindi, thank you! I even printed it off for my husband. Your 5 steps are amazing, I am putting them up where I can see them daily. I love what Nicole said about God never wasting a hurt. He is so good 🙂
I’m glad it was helpful to you, Chery. Blessings.
I so appreciated your teaching @ our SMCC Women’s Retreat a few years ago in Midway, UT. Since then I’ve encouraged a variety of my CA friends to connect with you when you speak @ different locations. Thank you for being an encourager & Godly example. Many blessings to you & your family this Christmas season, Janie
Hi Janie: Thanks for the encouragement. I look forward to meeting your California friends. Blessings to you this Christmas, too.