Hurtful times are opportunities to grow closer to God. Tell Him you're ready to see what He wants you to see and to know Him in the way that He desires. By doing this you are placing yourself in the position where He can teach you what He wants you to learn.

I remember waiting upon God for a second child and wondering if He was even there during that struggle. But now I realize - 20 years later and still no second child - that God knew what He was doing all along. He did hear my prayers. He did see my tears. And He had a better plan.

God not only sees your tears, but His Word says He collects them in a bottle (Psalm 56:8, NASB). He is mindful of all that is on our hearts and all He wants to do in our lives to bring about His desired purposes.