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3 things to consider before leaving your churchAre you considering leaving your church? If so, I want to give you a few things to think about.

If you’re leaving because you’re relocating to another area, I understand. If you’re leaving because you’ve tried your best, with God’s help, to reconcile a situation, and haven’t been able to, I sympathize. And if you’re leaving because you want a stronger program for your kids, I would ask what you are doing to train them spiritually.

But if you are leaving your church because you’re not being “spiritually fed” you are like most people I’ve talked with.

As a pastor’s wife for more than 20 years, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone say they were looking for a new church because they weren’t being “spiritually fed.” I didn’t hear it being said about my husband (at least not directly) but from others about why they were checking out our church, why they hadn’t yet found a church, or why they have nearly given up on church altogether.

I fear what happens when we begin staying in or leaving a church based on the question “what’s in it for me?”

Here are three things to consider the next time you are thinking about leaving your church:

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sadgirlDo you ever feel like your pastor is blowing you off?

Maybe you just feel like he doesn’t greet you or treat you as you expected.

That was the case with “Anne” who emailed me her question:  “What should I do if I think my pastor doesn’t like me?”

Anne says she often has an “overwhelming feeling whenever my pastor greets me that he’s pasting on a smile. I can sometimes see him dig deep for it, too. Ive seen him turn away in hopes there was someone else to speak to and then, finding no one else, dig deep for that fake smile and turn back to me. It hurts.”

I ran Anne’s dilemma by my husband, a former pastor of 20 years, and he had some great insights that can help us understand pastors and how to better deal with the situation if you feel your pastor is blowing you off.

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