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There are a few situations in my life right now that could really stress me out. My husband is waiting to hear about three different job opportunities, and to be honest, he needs at least two of  the three!

Now, I can pull out my hair, and lose sleep at night, and keep calculating what we’ll do if he doesn’t get any of those jobs. Or, I can realize it is ludicrous for me to worry that God isn’t aware, or doesn’t care, or won’t provide for us in time.

I choose to not be ludicrous. So I thought of five good reasons not to worry about that or anything we tend to worry about. Those five good reasons come down to five things you and I will never hear God say as we hand Him our worries and concerns.

So here they are. You never have to fear any of these responses when you trust God with what is on your heart:

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Are you a worrier or a warrior?
A worrier is one who tries to fight her own battles of fear, insecurity, and doubt.
A warrior lets God fight those battles through her.

Ephesians 6:12 tells us “we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies (like the person who is making your life miserable), but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places” (like the unseen thoughts, fears and frustrations that cloud your judgment, persuade you to worry, and tempt you to stress out).

Here’s how you can tell if you’re a worrier or a warrior:

A worrier says: “I’m so nervous about this situation. I’ve never done anything like this before.
A warrior says: “God has gone before me into this situation so I have nothing to fear.”

A worrier says: “There’s no hope.”
A warrior says:”My hope is in the Lord…”

A worrier says: “What if something bad happens?”
A warrior says: “God causes all things — even the bad things — to work for good to those who love Him” (Romans 8:28).

A worrier says: “I’m not strong enough. Surely I will fail.”
A warrior says: “The Lord is my strength” (Psalm 28:7) and “If God is for me, who can be against me?” (Romans 8:31).

Did you notice the difference? The worrier is looking at the world through her physical eyes. She sees (or doesn’t see) and she fears.

The warrior is looking in the WORD and has God’s  response for every situation she encounters. She sees with her spiritual eyes…from God’s perspective…the perspective of a victor, an over comer, a conqueror (Romans 8:37).

Romans 12:2 tells us “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may]prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

To be conformed to this world is to worry like every other person in the world.

To be transformed by the renewing of your mind is to think differently  — as a warrior princes should think, as a warrior who knows where her strength is, where the power is, and to Whom she belongs.

So which one are you? A worrier or a warrior?

If you’re the former, here’s the best news of all:  A worrier can turn into a warrior at any time. Your transformation is just a prayer away:

“God, grant me, according to the riches of Your glory, to be strengthened with power through Your Spirit inwardly so that I can be a woman of faith, not fear….a warrior,  not a worrier” (Ephesians 3:16-17).

Will you join me in the ranks as a warrior?

For more on being a warrior, not a worrier, see my newest book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom.

I’ll admit it. I’ve said the words aloud or thought them many times.

And I’m guessing you have, too.

They’re two of the most debilitating words a woman can say, especially when it comes to her children. These two words fill our minds with doubt and our hearts with fear.

They are the words: “What if…?”

What if my children get hurt?

What if they don’t make friends?

What if they follow the wrong crowd?

What if they’re lying to me?

What if they never get married?

And even: What if I’m not a good enough mom?

I realized one day, after spending time in God’s Word, that at the root of all my “What if” questions and worry is what I really believe about God’s character. When my mind plays through the various what ifs, the question I’m really asking is “What if God isn’t able?” “What if God isn’t good?” “What if God can’t handle this?”

There’s a reason God’s Word tells me “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus,” (Philippians 4:6-7, NLT).

As I give God all of my what ifs, worries, and anxieties, He can calm my heart and remind me that He is in absolute control.

That was the lesson I had to learn myself before I wrote my book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. Based on my own experience mothering – as well as wisdom and advice from many other moms – I found that there are treasures (secrets, if you will) to discover as we surrender to God what is closest to our hearts – our children.

One of those treasures is the incredible peace He offers as the Perfect Parent who allows us to partner with Him in raising, loving, and caring (not worrying) for our kids.

When I give God what is closest to my heart I am saying “You, God, are capable. You are trustworthy. And all my worries and what ifs are in vain.”

What are you saying – to God and to others – when you worry? And what would you like to start saying with your life and your actions from this point on?

I’m giving away three free copies of my brand new book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom For a chance to win, let me know in the comment section below why you would benefit from reading this book. Winners will be announced on next week’s blog. (U.S. residents or American Post Office boxes only please.)

There are three things I could really worry and stress about right now.

And yet, I’m choosing not to.

Here are the concerns pressing in on me:

  • My husband is still in transition since he stepped out of the full-time pastorate to begin a sabbatical year and wait on God for what’s next. It’s now been two years. And we are still waiting for his city ranger job to go full-time or for God to open up a new door in ministry for him.
  • My daughter, now 23, still hasn’t found an affordable place to live near her job which she loves. Thus, she is commuting an hour and a half each way almost daily in crazy Southern California traffic. How she longs to feel “settled in” in her new career and adult life.
  • My parents are aging and I now have a Dad with prostate cancer, a mom with diabetes, and a step-dad struggling with the middle stages of Alzheimer’s. I live far away from them and wish I could be closer to help.

I guess you could say our lives are back to a day-to-day dependence on God when it comes to finances, work, our health, and so many other things. But then…isn’t everyone’s when you really think about it? Who of us is really in control of our circumstances from day to day? And when we recognize God has all our concerns in His hands, there is peace.

Philippians 4:19 tells us: “And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”

I’m grateful God has me and my family in that place where we must look for Him at every turn and wait for Him to come through for us at the end of every day. It builds our faith. It increases our dependence on Him. It keeps us humble. It keeps us in perspective. It keeps us on our knees in prayer.

THAT is why I’m choosing not to worry about all that concerns me and to trust the One who can change things at any moment.

What is the upside of what God is doing in your life in spite of what would normally cause you to worry? As you focus on the positives, you may begin to see what God wants to show you at this otherwise stressful time.

What is the one (or more) reason(s) you will go worry-free this year? Your reasons for worry are simply your catalysts for trust.

See my newest book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom, to help you trust God with what is closest to your heart.

Are you ready for 4  more things you never have to worry about?

I asked you last week to let me know what keeps you awake at  night and, based on your responses (and what I know of God’s trustworthy Word) here is another list of 4 things God can control a lot better than you and I can:

1. You never need to worry about being ignorant or relying on your own thinking. God’s wisdom is there for the askingJames 1:5-6 says:

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind (NLT).

So,  ask God for wisdom and ask for it by faith in Him alone. And as you apply Proverbs 3:5-6, He will straighten the way for you:

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Did you know there are at least 7 things we never need to worry about? ‘

As I’ve grown older, I’ve made it a point to not waste a day worrying about something I can’t control.

I wish I’d had that mindset when I was younger. How many days have I wasted, how many stomach aches could I have spared, how much less stress could I have had if I’d remembered that the One who controls all things has my back and has my situation under perfect control?

Let me take this time to remind you — and encourage you — of the things you, too, never need to worry about if you are trusting in the One who can do all things:

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Growth quote 2Do you ever worry that you aren’t growing enough, spiritually? And should it be something you worry about?

One of my readers recently said:

“I often worry about my spiritual growth. Sometimes I feel like I am not growing.”

I, too, used to worry about my spiritual growth:

  • Am I where I should be, spiritually, considering how long I’ve known God?
  • Is there something more I should be doing — or something more I should be studying — so I can grow in an area where I still need to become more like Christ?
  • Am I being obedient enough?

And yet, I realize now that I’ve been asking the wrong questions.

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When my friend sent me a text upon learning her husband was diagnosed with colon cancer, I was surprised — yet encouraged — by her reaction:

“God’s got this,” she said confidently.

I want that type of unswerving trust in the One who can handle all things. And I know you do, too.

Last week I asked you what you worry most about so I could encourage you to trust God in those areas. Here is what you, my readers, said:

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stop-worrying-225As I’ve grown older, I’ve made it a point to not waste a day worrying about something I can’t control.

I wish I’d had that mindset when I was younger. How many days have I wasted, how many stomach aches could I have spared, how much less stress I could have had if I’d remembered that the One who controls all things has my back and has my situation under perfect control.

Let me take this time to remind you — and encourage you — of the things you, too, never need to worry about if you are trusting in the One who can do all things:

1. If you know personally the Great Physician, you never need to worry that you suffer with a condition that no doctor understands or can treat. Nothing takes Him by surprise. No condition is outside of His league.

2. If you know the One who owns the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10), you never need to worry about where your next meal will come from.

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Last week we looked at the first two (of five)  things a mom never needs to worry about:  her child’s friendships, and her child’s future spouse.

worry1Today, I want to look at the other three things a mom never needs to worry about:

3. Your Child’s Choices – God was the perfect parent, but Adam and Eve still sinned. So even when you are doing all you can to guide your children spiritually, they will still make choices of their own. At times those choices won’t be the best ones. But that’s how they learn and grow through their mistakes. And that’s when we trust that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).

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It happened. My daughter, a recent college graduate,  moved in to her apartment an hour away from home and started her first career job.

DanaDisneyCollegeMy, how time flies. My, how God provided. And, oh my, how many of my worries throughout her life were unnecessary — and still are.

Dana, now 21, hates when I worry. Not only because she’s now an adult and has to keep reminding me that she’s perfectly capable of doing things on her own. But also because she doesn’t want to have to worry about me worrying.

And I’m pretty sure God hates my worrying, too.

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