What would you say if your child told you that he or she was gay?
Maybe you haven’t experienced that but a friend of yours has.
In her new book, Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home, my friend, Author Lori Wildenberg, addresses this topic, among others that our children may present us with.
I asked her to share her wisdom on my blog for you or someone you know who may come face to face with a situation like this.
Here’s Lori’s wisdom (which can also be applied to other areas of a grown child’s behavior or choices):
“My young adult just told me he’s (or she’s) gay. Now what?”
This inquiry used to be a rare one. This past month I have spoken to three different moms seeking answers to this very question.
Broken-hearted, lonely, and confused, they are looking for camaraderie, comfort, and clarity.
Empathy and compassion I have in full supply. I can relate. My daughter is same-sex attracted.
Answers—God has those.
Each family, each child, each parent is different. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to how this is played out in the family.
God is the one to trust with the answers.
Along with my listening ear, I can provide some guidelines when it comes to living with this new reality. The most important thing I tell parents is to love their child. Once the young person has uncovered his secret, he is relieved his secret is out but fears his parents will not love him. Show him that is not true. Let him (or her) know you love him.
So what does love sound like?
Say these 12 vital statements to your child in order to build and maintain a relational bridge.