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Would you like to be done with the drama? Me too.

Admit it. You’ve said (or at least thought) I’m done with the drama

…when your mother calls with complaints that you can’t help her with. Sorry!

…when your teenager is having a meltdown for no apparent reason. Whaattt?

…when your co-worker blames you for an incident that was clearly not your fault. Again?!

…when you get a call from a family member or friend who isn’t attending the gathering because she is planning to be there. Whatever.

…when you discover the talk in the break room, Bible study, or neighborhood  has been about you. Over it!

Or maybe – just maybe – someone else has thought I’m done with the drama when thinking of you.

I’d like to think I’m never the cause of drama. But in reality, you and I can be catalysts for drama without even realizing it. Yes, you have been the cause of drama if you’ve ever…

… told your friend about another break-up worthy situation with your boyfriend, yet you can’t bear to part with him.

… verbally vented at the customer service rep for how you were treated in the store.

… given another mom a piece of your mind after hearing how her child treated yours.

… said anything about anyone that you wouldn’t have said if they were present.

… refused to attend or be involved with something because of another person you didn’t want to be around.

… refused to forgive someone because of something they’ve done to you.

… stormed out of a room or meeting (or lost it, emotionally, and then left the room).

Yep, if you’ve ever done any of the above (like I have), then you know drama, too. And I’m sure you hate it as much as I do.

But you don’t have to be drama…or continue to have drama in your life. After all, how we respond to situations make all the difference — or all the drama — in the world.

Here are 10 statements to verbally diffuse drama in the moment:

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I’m no stranger to drama.

I wish that weren’t so.

I wish I could tell you that there has never been a dramatic day in my life and that I have never, personally, played into drama, contributed to drama, or let drama control my circumstances or responses.

But then I’d be lying to you. And that would be more drama.

The truth is, like you, I know drama. I have lived and breathed it – and even abhorred it –because I live in a world where drama happens. And because I see it in the thousands of women I work among and minister to every year.

None of us sets out to be drama but it can happen. Our upbringing, personality, and baggage from past wounds can trigger dramatic reactions that make you and I the inevitable drama queen.

Here is a way to assess your drama factor.  Do any of these statements describe you?read more

What do you want more of?

Have you thought of that lately?

You and I live in a society where we are constantly feeling we need more of something. I’m not necessarily talking about materialism and greed, but more like the feeling of scarcity.

I know I find myself saying I need more time, more money, more energy, more sleep, more opportunities, more motivation, more discipline, and more willpower.

But really, the only thing I need more of is Jesus. Yet how often do I think or state aloud: “I need more of Jesus? And how often do I admit “I need less of me”?

In a society where we are constantly told to love yourself, love your body, and even “love your selfie,” who is telling us we need to love ourselves less and love Him more? Who is encouraging us to decrease so Christ can increase?

John the Baptist, at the height of His popularity, (today we would say “at the height of building his platform and securing his following) said “He (Jesus) must increase, but I must decrease” (John 3:30).

Wow…there’s a strategy for success.

Jesus said whoever will be first will be last. And whoever seeks to save his life must first lose it. And “humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time,” (1 Peter 5:6).

I truly need more of Jesus and less of me. And this week I’m going to be praying about and focusing on how I can truly want more of Him and less of me. In next week’s blog I will tell you what I came up with. In the meantime, tell someone this week the one thing you need more of. As you recognize and verbalize your need, your heart may start to go after it.

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