In my ongoing blog series “Questions Women Ask,” I received an email asking “How do you forgive someone after betrayal although he denies any wrongdoing?”
Another woman asked “Am I expected to forgive someone who hasn’t even apologized?”
And another reader asked why she isn’t able to forget an offense, and is that a sign that she hasn’t really forgiven?
I suppose we could forgive — and forget — a lot easier if the one who wronged us was remorseful and started showing signs of changing their behavior so they wouldn’t hurt us again. But forgiveness is not something we offer another individual based upon their apology, level of remorse, or promised behavioral change.
In my book, When a Woman Overcomes Life’s Hurts, I clear up some misconceptions many of us have about forgiveness, which often keeps us from extending it to others. These four truths might help you forgive a person who doesn’t deserve your forgiveness: