When People are Big and God is Small
What do you fear more than God?
It’s very possible that is what is causing you drama.
For instance, I was recently stressed out because I didn’t want to disappoint someone and yet it was becoming impossible for me to meet their expected deadline. Yet did I really fear what that person thought of me more than I feared God who had my back and could clear my name?
It occurred to me, as I was writing my book, Drama Free, that most of the drama we experience in life is a result of fearing people more than we fear God. (To fear God is to have a wholesome dread of ever displeasing the Lord. To fear people — and what they think about you or might do to you — is to give them more control over you than they deserve.) When we care more about what others think of us we are adopting a mindset where people are big and God is small.
And that triggers drama.
The Bible tells us “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom….” (Psalm 111:10, NASB).
I find that verse interesting because I’ve come to realize the opposite of wisdom is drama. When we exercise wisdom, we use discretion and we don’t make a scene. When we demonstrate wisdom, we don’t bring distress to others. When we display wisdom, we are not putting ourselves on display. If fearing the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, which negates drama, then fearing anything other than God is likely to trigger drama.
Instead of fearing God, we often fear:
- being misunderstood
- being treated unfairly
- being embarrassed (by appearing weak or incapable)
- being rejected
- being in a situation where we are not in control (My daughter has a fear of flying because she fears not being in control. And let me tell you, she can be drama on the airplane because of it!)
Sometimes we simply fear the worst. That is still a fear of something other than God. It is giving more power to what we fear than to God, who can handle those fears.
In Exodus 14:14 we are told: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (NIV). That is one capable God, able to do far more than our fears, worries or drama can accomplish.
The more you and I get to know who God is and what He is capable of, the more our worries, fears, and freak-outs can be stilled.
We can be full of drama, or full of trust in an all-capable God. I know which one I want to be. Don’t you?
Let me know in the comment section below what you tend to fear more than God and I’ll enter you in a drawing for a free copy of my newest book, Drama Free.