Why God doesn’t want you to stress

What stresses you out? Work? Finances? Your children? Tax time?

What about a project you are working on that doesn’t appear to be coming together? Or an over-packed schedule that has you striving for the impossible?

Maybe it’s even your ministry or service to God that has you stressed out!

Stress results when we worry that something won’t work out the way we are hoping. It is the opposite of faith – which is “confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1).

And God doesn’t want you to stress. Here’s why:

  • Stress sends a message to God – and everyone else – that He isn’t capable.  We don’t consciously believe that, but our actions display it every time we wring our hands, pull out our hair, or leave the room to let off steam. Stress says to others “I have to work this out myself, because I’m on my own.”
  • Stress keeps us from enjoying a relationship with God. When I wrote my books, When Women Long for Rest, I realized, through personal experience and study of the Word, that God would rather have us be with Him than do a bunch of things for Him. I see that in Jesus’ response to a man who asked Him about the greatest of all the commandments. Jesus’ answer was “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37). God is focused on relationship. We tend to be focused on activity. He is the One who tells us to “be still” (Psalm 46:10) and to come to Him and rest (Matthew 11:28). We are the ones who are constantly striving to do more. Yet, as we spend time cultivating a love relationship with God, we will then know how to serve others and we will be able to discern His gentle voice saying “This is what I have for you” or “Step in and help with that.” And when God directs us toward work it will never be at the expense of overlooking our primary responsibilities (to God, our marriage and family), or feeling over-extended.
  • Stress makes us careless. God knows when we are too busy, we will get run down and won’t be on our best game. We will make decisions that aren’t the best, carry out actions that aren’t the best, and begin to live a life that is bent on our preferences, not God’s. More importantly, when we are stressed, we tend to respond in a way that isn’t glorifying to God. In Philippians 1:27, followers of Christ are told, “Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.” Notice that word whatever.

Whatever comes in the mail today…

Whatever happens at work…

Whatever your bank balance says…

Whatever your spouse says – or doesn’t say – today…

Whatever someone else says about you, whether you deserve it or not…

Whatever grade (or disciplinary report) your child brings home…

Whatever comes your way in any given day, you are to live in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.

The Gospel of Christ is that He left heaven to come to this earth, live an obedient life to His Father, and then died to be the sacrifice for our sins so we can live eternally when we place our faith in Him. The Gospel of Christ proclaims that Jesus Christ is capable. Our stress says He’s not.

If Jesus is capable of securing our eternal life, He can certainly take care of matters in our everyday life.

So, instead of stressing about all you can’t control, start resting in the Only One who can control all things.

About me

Cindi McMenamin is an award-winning author and national speaker who helps women find strength for the soul. She has nearly 30 years experience ministering to women and inspiring them to let God meet their emotional needs, grow stronger through their alone times, and pursue their dreams with boldness.


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Reply March 14, 2017

Love this, Cindi! Such a powerful and needed reminder for my 💗 today! Thank you!

    Reply March 14, 2017

    You're welcome, Sally. :) Always good to hear from you.

    debi faith
    Reply March 15, 2017

    Thanks,this is so timely. God bless you.

      Reply March 15, 2017

      Thank you. God's blessings to you, as well. :)

Dawn Talley
Reply March 14, 2017

Thank you for this blog as I sit in my house during a massive NE snowstorm writing my senior thesis for my imminent undergraduate graduation that is happening thirty-one years after my associates degree!

    Reply March 14, 2017

    Hi Dawn. You go, girl. Get that thesis written and rest, don't stress. :)

Reply March 14, 2017

This is one of the best pieces I've ever read! It's so completely applicable to my life right now. Perfect timing! Thank you.

    Reply March 15, 2017

    I'm so glad it encouraged you at just the right time, Denise. Rest in Him.

Reply March 16, 2017

I am soo encouraged by this piece. God bless you Cindi

    Reply March 17, 2017

    Thank you for taking the time to comment. God bless you as well.

Reply March 16, 2017

This is my first time reading your blog.... isn't it wonderful when God gives you what you need RIGHT when you need it!

    Reply March 17, 2017

    I'm so glad to hear that, Serina. Yes, God knows what we need exactly when we need it and I'm so grateful He used my blog to speak to you. Thank you for reading my blog. :)

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