Are you drama? Take the test and see…

I’m no stranger to drama.

I wish that weren’t so.

I wish I could tell you that there has never been a dramatic day in my life and that I have never, personally, played into drama, contributed to drama, or let drama control my circumstances or responses.

But then I’d be lying to you. And that would be more drama.

The truth is, like you, I know drama. I have lived and breathed it – and even abhorred it –because I live in a world where drama happens. And because I see it in the thousands of women I work among and minister to every year.

None of us sets out to be drama but it can happen. Our upbringing, personality, and baggage from past wounds can trigger dramatic reactions that make you and I the inevitable drama queen.

Here is a way to assess your drama factor.  Do any of these statements describe you?

  • I don’t adapt well to change.
  • I tend to react emotionally to the unexpected, and think more clearly a little later.
  • I’ve been known to “fly off the handle” at times
  • I tend to have high expectations of others, especially those closest to me
  • I am easily offended.
  • I have a hard time forgiving others.
  • It bothers me when I’m misunderstood or misrepresented.
  • I’ll do anything to try to help someone.
  • I have a strong need to be treated fairly.
  • I try to avoid confrontation as best I can.
  • I sometimes feel like I need to please everyone.
  • I get frustrated when I can’t please everyone at the same time.
  • I’m the kind of person who speaks my mind, even when it offends.

If any of those statements describe you,  that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it means you’re pretty much like every other breathing woman on this earth – you have emotions and sometimes struggle with how to express them. But you don’t  have to stay that way. You and I can learn how to respond, rather than react, to what life brings us so that we can dial down the drama, diffuse it, or eliminate it altogether.

Not all drama is because we bring it on ourselves. We can be near someone who erupts, or the target of a slanderous campaign, or the victim of a passive aggressive person who is taking out their frustrations on us. Or sometimes we are broadsided with a diagnosis or a disappointment or a chain of events that has us scrambling to keep our sanity.

Whether our drama is the petty stuff (like being the subject – or perpetrator – of gossip, or having a bad day)  or the truly painful stuff that catches us off guard (like a cancer diagnosis, the ending of a friendship, or suddenly losing someone we love),  how we respond makes all the difference – or all the drama – in the world.

You and I often can’t control our circumstances, but we can always control how we respond to them. Stay tuned as my next several blogs, based on my new book, Drama Free, will show you how. (Drama Free: Finding Peace When Emotions Overwhelm You is now available in my store. The complete 32-question test for “Assessing Your Drama Factor” is available in the book’s introduction.)

About me

Cindi McMenamin is an award-winning author and national speaker who helps women find strength for the soul. She has nearly 30 years experience ministering to women and inspiring them to let God meet their emotional needs, grow stronger through their alone times, and pursue their dreams with boldness.


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Reply April 4, 2017

We all could use more reminders & skills on how to handle drama. I especially struggle when it hits home and has something to do with my children (like mean spirited actions or unfairness). I'll be getting this book and applying some principles!!

    Reply April 4, 2017

    Thanks, Karen, for your comments. I'll be posting an article next week on "Three Ways to Not Be a Drama Mama"! ;)

Reply April 5, 2017

God is speaking through you to me this morning! Thank you, Cindi ~ I can't wait to receive your book!

    Reply April 5, 2017

    You're welcome, Beth. :) Thanks for leaving a comment.

Shellie Vandewark
Reply April 5, 2017

I feel like this allot! The drama is sucking the life out of my marriage and has been for 13 years .it is at the point that my husband is now sleeping in a room at the other end of our house. I've been trying to get a grip on this, but sometimes I feel like it's a losing battle! I'll do better, then I'll fall back! I pray for God's wisdom and guidance, but sometimes feel so alone! Thank you for your advice!

    Reply April 5, 2017

    Thank you for sharing your story, Shellie. You are not alone. Not only are many women feeling the same things you are (See my book, When Women Walk Alone , but you have a God who will walk alongside you and give you the peace to calm your emotions and make sense out of life. You are in my prayers today.

Reply April 5, 2017

Thank you for your empowering message. A beautiful reminder to use our God given gifts..
I will be ordering your book!

    Reply April 5, 2017

    Thank you, Tamara. :)

Debby Ritter
Reply April 6, 2017

This is the book for me !! God is getting tired of my pitty party.. trying to buy book. Not having any luck

    Reply April 6, 2017

    So sorry, Debby, for your trouble. My website shopping cart is getting bogged down from so many orders today for Drama Free! That's a good thing, but not for those trying to have a drama-free purchasing experience. :) Please email me at and let me know which book(s) you would like and I'll get an invoice to you directly so you can bypass the shopping cart. :)

theresa chandler
Reply April 6, 2017

I ran across your website this morning while surfing the web for prayers and devotions. This was for me to see. Gods always knows when it is the right time to reach and hear His words through others. I was truly blessed to read your blog and to read the inspirational messages. Thank you for writing this book. I am at a point in my life of "no more drama for this mama". I too wish to respond and not react to "life's curve balls". Thank you again for your energy and God's lessons for all.

    Reply April 6, 2017

    Hi Theresa, I'm so glad you found my site and the encouragement you were looking for. God, indeed, is faithful.

Reply April 10, 2017

Thanks for sharing!

    Reply April 10, 2017

    You're welcome, Lisa. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Have a drama-free day! :)

Reply April 11, 2017

I really needed this right now. I ordered your book "Drama Free" and I can hardly wait for it to come in. I work with 20 other women (enough said).

    Reply April 11, 2017

    Hi Louise, thank you for ordering Drama Free. And yes, working among 20 women must have its share of drama. Best wishes. :)

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