Should you worry about your spiritual growth?

Growth quote 2Do you ever worry that you aren’t growing enough, spiritually? And should it be something you worry about?

One of my readers recently said:

“I often worry about my spiritual growth. Sometimes I feel like I am not growing.”

I, too, used to worry about my spiritual growth:

  • Am I where I should be, spiritually, considering how long I’ve known God?
  • Is there something more I should be doing — or something more I should be studying — so I can grow in an area where I still need to become more like Christ?
  • Am I being obedient enough?

And yet, I realize now that I’ve been asking the wrong questions.

Although Paul tells us in Philippians 2:12-13 to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling; for it  God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure,”  it can feel overwhelming if we start thinking of all there is to do to be a good follower of Christ. And we can constantly feel we are coming up short, especially if we are comparing ourselves to someone else. (And who can really know, anyway, how spiritually mature another person is since we don’t see the inside track of their intimate life with Christ).

But when a teacher of the Jewish Law came to Jesus at night (perhaps so no one else would know what he was worried about), and asked what God’s greatest commandment was (to make sure he was doing all he should), Jesus’ answer was not about what the man should be doing, but about the condition of his heart. Jesus said the greatest commandment (and therefore, God’s No. 1 concern) is to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37).

I realized then that the true question is not “Am I growing, spiritually?” or “Am I doing enough?” but “Am I loving Him more?

As we spend time in prayer and in God’s Word, we will get to know Him. The more we get to know Him, the more we will love Him. And the more we love Him, the more we will trust Him and grow in our obedience of Him.

So, instead of worrying about your growth in Him, daily whisper this prayer: “God, give me a heart for you.” And then focus on loving Him. Set your mind on being with Him throughout the day. Talk to Him as if He’s right there (because He is). And as you love Him more, the growth — and everything else — will fall into place (Matthew 6:33).

Next week I will address one of the most common questions I am asked: “Why isn’t God answering my prayers for a husband?” In the meantime, let me know in the comment section below what area of worry that you would like me to address in an upcoming blog.

About me

Cindi McMenamin is an award-winning author and national speaker who helps women find strength for the soul. She has nearly 30 years experience ministering to women and inspiring them to let God meet their emotional needs, grow stronger through their alone times, and pursue their dreams with boldness.


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Brittany Reed
Reply October 7, 2014

Hi Cindy! Thank you for your insight. I never looked at it like that before, but I will next time I wonder about my growth. I will set my love on Jesus and just love Him. I believe there is a way to tell if you're growing. You'll just know. You'll feel it. You'll feel differently. And you'll bear fruit. I'm still growing, and I told my husband recently I never want to get to a place where I feel I have "arrived" . No I want to learn something new everyday until I'm 120, and I want to stay humble always. Thank you Cindy for your wisdom. Sorry I didn't spell your name right Mrs. Cindi, it started erasing what I wrote when I tried to fix it. Have a beautiful day!

    Reply October 7, 2014

    Your comments always make my day, Brittany! :) And like you, I have not "arrived" spiritually, nor will I ever, this side of heaven. And if I ever believe I have, then pride will have surely reared its ugly head in my life, right? Let's focus on loving Jesus throughout this week. You have a beautiful day, too.

Gayle Geer
Reply October 7, 2014

Thank you for sharing this, Cindi. You hit the nail on the head...again, dear sister. You are a blessing to me, for sure, and I thank God for you.

    Reply October 7, 2014

    Thank you, Gayle, for your encouraging words -- as always. You, too, are a blessing to me. :)

Brittany Reed
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Reply October 8, 2014

that is brilliant! I have been asking the wrong questions too. Thank you Cindi for the inspiring posts that you share with us. God bless! xx
ps: I can't wait for you to write for GIGI again:) Will be in touch

    Reply October 8, 2014

    Thank you, Esther. And I would love to write for your magazine again. Blessings to you.

Reply November 6, 2014

Thank you for an ever-so-important reminder of the simple direction to grow in Him..."God, give me a heart for you." Such beautiful words Cindi:-)

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