God knew what He was doing…
This week my husband and I will celebrate 26 years of marriage. More than two decades ago, we told each other “I do” in front of family and friends. And after all these years, Hugh is still putting up with me. 🙂
I could be all gushy and say “I can’t imagine my life without him,” but honestly speaking, sometimes I have imagined that. And those are the times I am reminded that marriage isn’t — and never has been — about me. It’s about the One who called me to live, work, and serve alongside this man to accomplish God’s will for His glory.
I remember praying years ago, “God, don’t even bring another man into my life unless he is one who will help me draw closer to You.” And I believe that was the prayer God was waiting for. And boy, did God know what He was doing when He brought Hugh into my life. Had God given me a man who would be my all in all, would I need to cling to my Lord so tightly? Had He given me a man who could fill me up in every way, would I realize that only Jesus satisfies? If He gave me a man that was all about my “happily ever after” would I even have a ministry to women today?
Oh, how my flesh through the years has wanted to make my marriage about ME. (What about what I’ve needed, emotionally? What about what I long for, personally?) And there are days that God, in His grace and love, gives me so much more than I asked for. But there are also days when He reminds me that my life is His, and my desires are to be in line with His desires, and my goals are to be an extension of His goals. Christ bought that right to me when He went to the cross. And I quit fighting and finally acknowledged His right to me when He relentlessly pursued my heart and showed me there was no other way to joy.
God is good and faithful and loving. And what He has determined for our lives is good if we will be faithful and trust Him with our entire story. When I find my joy in Him, there is joy in everything else, too — my marriage, my family, my work, my personal life. I’m thankful for God’s plans, not mine.
So, in some ways I can’t imagine what my life would be like without Hugh, without the intimacy I know with God partly because of Hugh, and without a lesson I learned early on in life that God, alone, is the Only One who meets all of my emotional needs.
For our anniversary this year, we’d love to hear from YOU. Would you give us YOUR best marriage advice in the comment section below? Hugh and I will choose TWO winners by next Monday, August 18, to receive a free copy of our book, When Couples Walk Together. It’s one small way that we can celebrate our anniversary by giving to someone else. Thanks for encouraging us.